Love Dominican Style

I do not think I have much articulation today but want to stay with the Dominicans , they are getting a bad rap all the way around these days. Right now it is being publicized as, well, almost an ethnic cleansing as they attempt to rid their country of illegal immigrants, after giving a period of time to submit paperwork to qualify people to remain here, to work, live, whatever. It is too politically charged and my ability to completely understand the language gives rise to misinterpretation. I left off in April(no clue where May went) talking about relationships here, and I have some recent insights, after doing some personal research. Yes, I know, this is not about me, but it kind of is....(I have gone outside of my comfort zone , dipped my foot, well, maybe just a toe or two so far, into Dominican water.) Flattery will get you anywhere with me, if I think there is a shred of genuine feeling behind it, so when I was asked to be someones novia(girlfriend) I considered the pros and cons of a Dominican relationship. Never even thought about this for me. And I live in a rural farm-based area, so there is not much higher education(or much lower to be honest) not much money , income or industry.But there is family, morals and a load of common sense. And that inexplicable sweetness I find in almost everyone. That seed of ...something good and trusting. I saw that in my future novio(boyfriend) and decided to find out why a Dominican would want a white person as a novia, other than the Bank of Gringo, which was not prevalent in this case. Age is a big issue for me, but not for Dominicans. So my first question was why, and the answer I got back , in totally honesty , made me bite a hole in my lip. Pelo. Hair. Dominicans don't like afro/ "brillo" hair. so having the right kind of hair is a plus, but then there is the glaring age thing. my guy says we have to have a baby, just one is ok. Another hole in my lip. I remind him of my age, he says thats ok, just one baby. I tell him I not longer have the parts for this, regardless. I get the "that does not compute" look, I am dealing with someone who is happy to help me with my embarrassing Spanglish, but he has no desire to learn English, or communicate with me that way. I mention his diabetes and he gives me another "does not compute" look. He has a blue diabetic bracelet on. He does not know what it says, its in English. No curiosity, just likes the color. Does not have diabetes, which is good for his next baby mama novia. But he puts his arm on mine and says (in Spanish)"Kiss?" Not buy me a new phone, cook me some food, just a kiss. . Just the basics. Nothing more. And don't forget about the baby. Three is usually the magic number here, so I feel he was trying to understand and be considerate. And I can stay with him and his abuela(grandmother), or he will sleep here, no problem. But no difference either. Nice. So while I don't feel as flattered as I initially did, I also don't feel potentially taken advantage of. And when he came over to talk, he brought a friend, like he did not trust me! Ha! A chaperon must be present first go around. I am not sure dancing with a young Dominican is what I want, or need, but , aside from my lack of parenting ability, it is not the worst thing I have encountered. Certainly more open and honest than internet dating!!!